Turning Power Struggles Into Fun Games!
When we think of getting our kids to cooperate we tend to think about discipline strategies. These are great and work well alongside respectful and kind communication. .
But we are talking about children. Two, three and 5 year olds. All children love to play and young children especially respond so well when activities turn into games or challenges. ?♀️
You can make a lot of your daily activities easier and more fun for the both of you by being fun and funny whenever you can. It might feel like it’s asking too much energy of you but think about all the time and energy you’re saving from arguing or dealing with a tantrum.
Being funny is also a great way to defuse a power struggle or when you’re stuck and don’t know what else to do now. Turn it into a game! ?
In our house we do bedtime routine in the bathroom. When giving acceptable and limited choices or trying to redirect to the bedtime routine chart aren’t working that evening I jump to being funny! ??
It takes all my strength and patience to find it in me to be funny at the end of the day but it’s worth it. Instead of creating a power struggle between tired parents and child I tell my son who’s going to be the first to race to the bathroom you or papa? And he always jumps up and sprints to the bathroom. ?♂️?♀️
What would have been an evening of crying and upset emotions turns into a fun and happy game and bedtime routine does get done with cooperation and willingness and most importantly respect! ❤️
?Here are a few daily situations where you might be facing a power struggle but you can turn it around by being funny and fun.
?️Getting out of bed in the morning
??Race out of bed
?Getting out of the bath
??Play peekaboo with the towel if your little one doesn’t like to leave the bath
??Sing a song while getting dressed
??Look for the fingers and toes while putting on t-shirt, pants and pajamas
??Counting together while clasping the buttons
Next time you’re in a challenging situation with your child, I’d like you to try being funny and fun before going into firm mode. Let me know how it goes ❤️
Jailan Heidar is an Egyptian parent educator currently living in The Netherlands. She has a MSc. in Child and Family Studies from Leiden University. She specializes in providing parenting support to parents of children from 0-5 years through her website EarlyYearsParenting.